Friendship by force
CaramelD

If you didn't read about my 'interesting' summer romance and the subsequent break up, then please read part one and part two for this post to make sense.

Around November I got a whatsapp message from the dude saying 'hello'. I was rushing at work and just deleted it without a thought. Then around Christmas time I got a 'Merry Christmas'  message and that's when I seriously realised that he was trying to start up a conversation. I was seriously baffled. As in my non-existent eyebrows went up to my hairline. All I could think about was that I had to learn how to block people  on whatsapp, but again it was rush rush rush in the kitchen and I didn't pay it any mind.

When I finally made it to the a tiny little village in Somerset with my girls for a little holiday (pictures coming soon), I got the the first line of the message (I was doing a miniature hike) and only remembered to reply the  next day. The following conversation ensued.......


2/1/2013 15:26: Him: Its a new year, and a time for a fresh start, can we be friends?
3/1/2013 21:12: Me: Hi, I wish you no ill will but no we can't be friends.
3/1/2013 21:14: Him: Then u DO wish me ill will
3/1/2013 21:15: Him: And it says to me, that u don't have a forgiving heart
3/1/2013 21:15: Him: But thanks for responding at least
3/1/2013 21:15: Him: That is better than the rudeness of ignoring me
3/1/2013 21:23: Me: Actually, no it doesn't but feel free to interpret it how you see fit... Certain that there isn't any form of friendship that you could offer, that I'd be interested in. In the interests of civility let's start as we mean to go on with no further conversation.
3/1/2013 21:46: Him: How u can be certain of that, without knowing the future of having any ill will against me, is a wonder. However, I have no intention of imposing my friendship on u. I just felt that as it is a new year, let all old things pass, besides whatever, we did like each other and got on well enough. I won't bother u again.

Now my question is this....

Doesn't he realise that he is one of the 'old things' that have to pass in 2012. After  how this dude behaved towards me and his own admissions that he was faking his behaviour with me, exactly how are we meant to be friends? After that last phone conversation we had in when we broke up, I seriously had chills. I thought to myself, all may not be OK with this bloke oh. The deluded arrogance of it all just baffles me!

Shebi he was looking for girls to have sex with asap? Oya go and find them now. Why are you looking here? Hmm. Wonders shall never cease.

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A helicopter went down during rush hour near my part of the city this morning, killing two people and placing eleven people in hospital. May the souls of the departed rest in peace and may those in hospital have a full recovery. When you leave your house in the morning and get back safely at night everyday, it really is a mini miracle.

Stay delightful people xx

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It's a good time for a change
CaramelD
A five year old me for a five year old blog :)


My blog turned five last June and I didn't celebrate it which was very naughty. It was a rough time in the year and I let it slide, but better late than never! Can you believe I have been yapping my mouth for five years! Whaaat?! That's crazy.

When I started blogging I had just moved to Nigeria for NYSC and I was so adrift. I was miserable because I felt my Dad had forced my hand and had rushed me home when I wasn't ready and quite broke! I was also terribly homesick for London and missed my then object of my affection, my friends and my ordered life. 

It was Sirius who got me into blogging. She was my land lady/ride and die/partner in crime at the time and she used to read blogs and told me to start writing for my own mental health and the lady was right! I also had something to write about because life was just that delicious and crazy. I called my blog 'The Diary of a Lost One' because truly that is how I felt. Not one single external person read my blog then, just Sirius and two of our friends  in Lagos but it didn't matter because it was just so darn therapeutic. I started getting blog traffic when Sirius' new friend *ahem* and future husband, Freaksho linked my url on his blog roll. From then I got linked into this new world and I loved it!! 

Five years have passed and honestly I don't feel lost any more. God knows I still don't have all the answers and I'm making my way in the world but I feel empowered and in control of my life so I believe this new year is a good time to say good bye to the lost one and hello to grown up me :)

My new url is now www.misscarameld.com (but it is the same site) and my blog has been renamed Miss Caramel's Diary. If you still type in thediaryofalostone.blogspot.com it will re-direct you but I would be very grateful if you changed my name on your blog roll to usher in the New Year and celebrate my five years. Come and join the madness, there is plenty Fanta and chin chin for everyone!


All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost.


God bless!

Stay delightful xxx
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New Year Thanksgiving
CaramelD
First a little hymn.....

The steadfast love of the Lord never ages
His mercies never come to an end!
They are new every morning,
New every morning,
Great is thy faithfulness oh Lord!
Great is thy faithfulness!


Happy New Year lovely people! I hope this year finds you fit and healthy and ready to tackle the year. The above hymn was what I was singing while I took my driving test in the pouring rain and I passed!!! Hurrah! Praise the Lord! It was a long time coming and I'm super thrilled. How did my Mum celebrate? She took off her wig and repeatedly threw it in the air. I'm not lying!

Another point of thanksgiving is that even though kidnappers took our in-law from the front of his house in Enugu, he was returned unharmed a few days later! I was so petrified, my knees were shaking. With kidnapping incidents it can all go terrible wrong and I want to thank God that he was safely returned to his family as a lot of people are not so fortunate. 

My family friend was stabbed and by a gang of black boys at a New Years Eve party in Clapham, London. They chased him through the streets and if not for the fact that he is athletic and a good runner, they would have killed him. He has had surgery on his left arm and will need about 18 months healing time as there was extensive nerve damage. On my knees, thanking God as young black boys lives in London can be very cheap.

I don't bother with resolutions, just goal points! My two most pressing ones are financial stability and my continued weight loss. So far I'm 11kg down since mid September and I hope to continue to 30kg by April. I pray that all your goals will come to pass this year. Remember to pray for what you need, not what you want. 

Stay Delightful x 
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